Hello everyone! This Monday I decided to slow down and skip motivational posts and just talk to you about one thing that was missing in my life – its own pace. Now, before this fall, I did not quite understand what did it mean “to live according to your pace”. How do I find it, and where? I made research, started listening to myself, and I’m pretty sure I’ve been living the last 2 months doing everything at my own pace.
For the first time ever, I looked at my life from a quite new point of view. The other benefits included major confidence boost, a clear head, happier and more energized “me” and the terrible habit of comparison was gone. Sounds amazing, isn’t it?
I was happy for the achievements of people around me and did not feel like I was missing out on life. I set myself free from all kinds of expectations and discovered new ways to be a better human, daughter, wife, friend, etc. On top of that, I could care less about the judgment of others.
Now, if you made it this far, I thank you for that and offer you a little help on “how to find and live life at your own pace”:
Imagine that you’re running: you see people you’re passing by on your way, and those who are passing by you. You are slower than some, but you’re faster than others. Why? Is that because you’re better or worse? No. You’re running at your own pace. You have your goal and your vision. It’s not that important how fast you are running in life, the only thing that matters is that you’re running and enjoying it.
“Life is never a contest. Nor a race. We travel at our own pace.” (Jesse Neo)
- Patience is something I’ve never been good at. I still have enough trouble because I try to speed up the events that take longer than expected. Patience is a discipline. It takes time, practice and some nerves. Well, a lot of nerves. You’ve got to be true to yourself, work hard (and be persistent) but have enough patience to see what’s coming next. When we put effort into something, we want to see the results the faster the better, right? And we get frustrated with ourselves (and with the world) when we don’t see the outcome we hoped for. I think patience is the only thing that will allow us to enjoy the journey of life and take it one step at a time.
“A lot of people get impatient with the pace of change.” (James Levine).
- It takes courage not to care. It’s really important to find and follow your path and not care what others might think of you or your journey. I truly appreciate the opinion of the people that love and care about me, but that’s about it. I was raised in a quite judgemental society: opinions were shared when you didn’t ask for them, expectations were set and you had to care what others might think/say about your actions. Then there was social media struggle. Today it’s safe to say that I am who I am, I follow my path, and I am exactly where I have to be in my life. If you care what others think about your life and your decisions, try to quit this bad habit and focus on little things that bring you joy every day. Because
“What other people say about you is their reality, not yours.” (c)